My agreement and the know it all ego BS.

Agreement, the know it all point for males.

Problem

Being a male within an agreement has been challenging and still is, the male ego is really fucked up and has never been anything else than that.

I will share a simple point that all males must consider when entering an agreement and that is necessary for the agreement to flow more.

As a male I have had the experience with in the agreement ever since I started the agreement up until a couple of months ago the point of - I as the male know better than the women.

So this point that I was living and applying as me knowing better and more than the women really postponed me from learning anything new or from growing.

Whenever my partner brought up a point or a suggestion I would immediately have a counter conclusion/reason/argument/reaction and then I would say things that will make what my partner said seem less or as in valid.

So when I would for instance sit with my partner and we would do something on the P.C’s like making Photoshop stuff she would suggest something to me that I could do on the picture and instead of me going ok I will try it out and practice the point. I would go into NO I KNOW BETTER. Then i would give ten reasons why i was doing it the way I did it and why her idea would just make it bad.

This over times created a point in the agreement where my partner would simply not say anything.

I basically killed the expression and the softness and caring and the cute side of things and only tried sticking to serious manly things that would seem like I am a man that can handle my shirt and that I am tough and that what I make in photo shot is only cool and NOT cute.

And another simple point would be where we have taken many photos of the day and me and my partner would sit and start choosing the ones that we want to upload or use in videos, she would suggest all the expressive ones that had real character on it and an expression in it such as being funny or cute or nice, and then I as the male ego would say no it is not professional, people will not take it serious, we must take things that looks professional and specific.

Then again I end up choosing most of the pictures and next time my partner would simply start choosing pictures out without me and then I would get angry and not understand why and so conflict is created. As we all can see how it manifested through the male ego.

Correction

So now as a point of correction.

Every time I have to make a decision on something I ask my partner (Female) to make the decision for me as a yes or No answer.

This way I empower her and in the process I allow my male ego to be dissolved.

For example.
I want to buy a PsP (play station Portable) so before I do anything to buy it I go to my partner and I ask her straight forward, not in a controllable/manipulative/deceptive way if I can buy the Psp. She will ask me how much money do we have and I will tell her straight forward X amount. Then she will say Yes or No.

I accept any answer she gives me and I do it, no matter what reactions came up, no matter what reasons or back chat I made, i stop it and I breathe and I do as she said.

This count for all decisions I make and I include her in all of them and I follow her answer, because anything that I say I know will be my male ego.

So this is really a point of dedicating yourself to get the male ego out unconditionally. And in the process empower women, they have been suppressed for thousands of years and the male had their chance for thousands of years and look at where we are. We are fucked.

So test yourself if you are in an agreement for life and oneness and equality and ending the abuse, go to the male and with your partner and let her buy you a shirt and wear it no matter what, breathe.

If you add music to  video you are making ask your female partner do you think this music fits, if she says Yes or No then go with it and try something different, let her make suggestions or make many examples and let her choose.

Make a deal that you will make coffee whenever she asks you to, see if you as the male can handle that, breathe once again.

And if anything comes up and you are un able to breathe through it apply self forgiveness, make Mind construct and show her you have worked through it and you can move on.

So males it is time to stop the I know it all or I know best bullshit and let the E (energy) – go

if any questions leaf me a comment and I will reply or make a blog on it (about agreement)

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Nature and equal Money. A personal experience.

Nature and equal Money. A personal experience.

Living on the Dseteni farm for about three years now I have worked with nature and the animals that come naturally in the wild at the river and the fields etc. and quite a lot.

I have learned and seen many different bugs and I have encounters little bucks and Big Nile monitor lizards, I have seen weird wacky frogs and I have caught many fish and cared for them (tilapia Fish), I have saved little baby birds and I have seen eagles catch our chickens in front of our eyes.

So even with all these new experiences that I have had and still having I haven’t encountered any big animal species such as elephants and lions and crocodiles and tigers, you know the type you only see in Zoo’s or wild life reserves because that is the only place you will see them now.

So my experience is still only that of a small scale but yet it is a beginning and a perspective on how things can work with animals in an equal money system and thus I will share some points that I am facing currently that can be faces.

We have to take the following into consideration, in an equal money system money will not be a problem at all, thus if any problem or situation comes forth that needs direction it will get immediate direction because money is taken out of the equation, and thus money does not decide if the animals lives or dies according to how much money you have.

This is the kind of scenarios that we face here on the farm with the animals we find and encounter such as the Nile Monitor Lizard, which is a Lizard that grows up to 2.1m in length and can weigh up to 55Kg. They eat anything that they can fit into their mouths and the are dangerous if they are wild.

So we have a couple here on the farm in the river and they ate a few of our ducks and bit a few of our chickens that dies or had to be killed in the end from infections and so forth. So here is the scenario that most people will take to act on.

current monetary situation and actions that will take place:
The chickens that got killed and the ducks that got killed by the lizards is a loss of profit, thus the Lizards has to be killed because the owners of the chickens cannot afford to lose chickens because then they will not be able to pay for their hammer and the jet ski, thus the lizards will not be considered as life and they will simply be killed and the farmers will be happy, not considering the side effects that this will have on future generations on the environments and earth, because these lizards are here for a purpose unlike the humans an their homes was taken away from them by the humans and now they get killed because they need food like any other beings.

Equal money system situation and actions that will/can be taken:
This example comes from the farm and what we are already doing with what we can do even while still in the current money system, but we do it.
instead of killing the lizards to save the chickens and just to save money (as money is given more value than life currently) we are catching the lizards and building them a enclosure, we will within the enclosure re- produce the natural environment where they come from and we will but a pond in with fish and frogs and snails and we will put real plants in and we will make it all real for them in the enclosure, the difference will be that we will be able to now Monitor the Monitor lizards and in the same process interact with them as I am already doing, rubbing them picking them up and bonding with them. This is obviously a temporary solution till an equal money system is in place, then we will give mountains to them with the rest of the animals that is currently in captivity in reserve for the future. Because we humans take up all the land not because it is practical, but because we want to make profit so we make a lot of the same thing because people love consuming un necessary crap and thus life as the animals and plants and earth has to suffer for it.

So when money is no problem animals and life is placed first and taken care of equally, and this is what we are doing on the farm for the animals on such a small scale, it costs a lot of money taking everything into consideration, we will feed them rats and chickens such as the roosters, and obviously they eat fish which will be in the pond and frogs and snails etc. And then it is monitored and not random and making a loss that affects the whole environment currently.

So if one sees the common sense and the great possibilities that are possible with in an equal money system and how we will be able to restore earth back to its natural ways in equality for all life through day to day interactions with the environment with in and as the physical. Because currently nobody wants to make time for it and cant because everyone has to constantly surviving for food and a roof etc.

In and equal money system this will all change, your work will actually become your daily life and interaction with the physical reality and Nature, where people do this now as a hobby or for fun, in an equal money system it can be your job for real because you are already taken care of within an equal money system and thus you can now take care of life and have fun with it all.

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Labour and equal money. A personal experience.

I have been on the Desteni farm for some time now, about three years, and while being here I have done allot of labour.

I have built houses, I have made trenches and I have planted trees and I have cut grass and raked it up, I have worked with horses and trimming their hoofs, I have built walls, I have done hundreds of meters of fencing, I have done so many thing that is seen as labour.

I did not do the labour because it was my specific job description, I did the labour because it was here and it was needed to be done.

So everyone else that came to the farm for a month or more, some came for a year etc, they all joined in automatically with in doing the labour and applying themselves in the physical activities that was here.

If we needed more rooms we would build them, if we needed a greenhouse for vegetables, we would all start working on it, if we needed more chicken coops for the chickens we would all built it together and we would learn together as we go how to do it.

So none of us knew how to do it from the beginning or none of us really specialized or studied how to do it before hand, we would learn and educate ourselves as we go with in using and doing what is practical and common sense and what is here, supporting and assisting each other to get the jobs done.

It because a expression, when there was things that was needed to be done such as big tasks as building a house we all would jump in together get it done and then after the task we all would go back to our other priorities.

For instance some would be in charge of feeding the chickens and looking after them and then the others would be doing the vegetables and the others would be doing the gardening such as cleaning and checking fencing and for holes etc, and then someone ells would be doing the ducks, and someone ells would be preparing food for the group and someone ells would be doing laundry. You know all the other points that is needed daily and can be done by one being as their point of responsibility and point of input as an equal in the community.

And what motivated us all to do these things was the one point of equality, we all had equal support, we had food, we had water, we had a room, internet, showers, entertainment such a playing pool or darts or swimming, we had a good place here and it was all taken care of, we did not have to worry about money as being an obstacle at an individual level so to say. So all fear and survival and all the un necessary complications was taken out and put back to points of simplicity.

So we all had the time and resources to focus on what is here and how to apply ourselves.

So i can with in this see how things will change within an equal money system and how people will work together and have fun while doing it.

And it will work. It’s really simple once money isn’t a problem anymore. Thus I recommend equal money as the solution, and once one study the 4 year labor system and how it will function then what i say can be seen in more of a systematic way then randomness.

and obviously waht I share here can be how it can function in an equal money system and also what a person will be busy with aftre they have done their 4 year labour. so instead of working everyday for bullshit such as selling jewelry or designer cloths, one will be doing all the daily tasks in life that has got to do with all beings and not just self interest, because it will not be nessasary and you will be taken care of by the system with all basic needs.

and fun wi;; become equal for all and actually be enjoyed.

Any questions, ask me in the comment box, I will answer and obviously there is a lot more to my experiences and how labour can work with in an equal money system. This is a simple short giving example.

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